There is a tried-and-trusted tool under my Mama belt. I invoke its power for different occasions, reasons, moods, and breakdowns. And it ALWAYS works. (Well, almost. There’s no such thing as perfect in parenting.)
Pre-nap temper tantrum?
Under the weather?
Typical toddler out-of-nowhere flare-up?
WOULD YOU LIKE A HUG?
Mid-hysterics, an instant silence ensues. As if being snapped out of a hypnotic trance.
And just like that, the war is over. And on my lucky days, I’d even get a bonus of a heartfelt “I’m sorry, Mama.”
Would you like a hug? My most powerful 5-word magic spell. I know how enchanting a Mama’s hug is. Even in my adult life, I succumb to its power over me in the warm, comforting arms of my own Mama. When I feel down, I can almost wish that I live there. So I can imagine how entrancing it must be for my own child to hear that question and to be wrapped in her Mama’s embrace. A hug comforts, reassures, heals. It’s the best closer for a time-out. It can express more clearly the words that are difficult to say. It translates your feelings better to a toddler. Sometimes, it is better than saying “I’m sorry”. It calms both the child and the Mama on a bad day. It releases muscle tensions and relieves stress. A great source of good vibes.
//Mama, what are the weapons in your arsenal?