I am 100% Self-Approved

Self-Approved

I used to come from a place where I allow people and things to validate my worth. At the same time, I also allow others to guilt me into blaming myself, into saying sorry for what I do and for who I am. I allow others to make me feel sorry for myself, to make me think there’s something wrong with me that I must change so that I become a better person, a better friend. I allow a lot of should’s and must’s. I made so many changes to myself. While some of the changes were a necessary part of growing up and made me a better person, some just made me forget to love who I truly am.

I am fortunate to have met a few genuine people who have loved me, and have shown me that I am enough, that I am good, that I deserve love. That I can make mistakes and I will be understood. That I can be forgiven before having said sorry. That I can be loved –all of me and my brokenness.

I used to aim for achievements, wealth and material things to define my success. I used to believe that my success will denominate my worth. But when I took a leave from work and stopped earning, when I became full-time servant (aka stay-at-home mama), I have found my value intact and it is not attached to money nor anything material. My worth stays with me no matter the amount in my bank account.

I am 100% self-approved. I know my worth. I define it. I am who I am. I will not apologize for who I am. I am as imperfect as everybody. I will not compare or allow to be compared to anybody. I am enough. I deserve love. I don’t need to force myself into someone else’s definition of lovable in order to feel worthy of the love. I am loved. But loved or not, I will continue to strive to be loving and to love. I don’t need anybody’s emotions to dictate my own. I am my own. I am me. I love me. I approve me.

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2 thoughts on “I am 100% Self-Approved

  1. I struggled with my self-worth when my kids grew up and left home. And then again when I retired from a career in education. I had to learn–again–that I am valued for who I am, not just what I do. Good for you that you learned it early.

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    1. I still fall into the trap of self-pity. Many stay-at-home moms here experience it too every now and then. I think it’s common because it is easy to associate our identity with what we do. Thank you for sharing (I’ll have to remember those life events in the future and be ready). 🙂

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