I don’t think I am, perpetually. What I am is someone who constantly strives to choose the positive path. Keyword being ‘strive’. I don’t think it is healthy, or even logically possible, to be happy and optimistic all the time. What I do aim for is to have an attitude that looks for choices in every circumstance, and to pick the choice that is positive, uplifting, life-giving, loving. It is never easy. It can never be perfected. I fail too many times, too.
There’s this article that lists 8 habits of optimists, which made me think about my own and what makes me an optimist. There’s one in the list that resonates strongly with me. It’s something I have learned to adopt in my mid-20s and discovered what a big difference it makes in giving me a positive life.
THEY RID THEMSELVES OF TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS.
I call them nega-minds. The people in our lives who do nothing but drain our life away. If I can’t be a positive influence on them, I might as well avoid them. If I can’t avoid them, I try to change my own perspective so that I can live peacefully alongside them without their negative energy affecting me. It’s not easy. But it is a big step just to be able to identify these toxic relationships.
To read the full article: 8 HABITS OF PERPETUALLY POSITIVE PEOPLE
THE ROOT OF JOY IS GRATITUDE. - David Steindl-Rast
The other habit, not on the list, that is a big bliss-maker for me is finding something to be grateful for. I started this habit by keeping a gratitude journal. It’s the most effective attitude in getting me to be positive in even the direst of situations. It could be worse, but it’s not, and for that I am grateful. The simpler the reasons for my gratitude, the more genuinely contented I feel.
//What’s your “happy habit”? What makes your life more positive?