How To Ask (For What You Want)

Courage Feb

Two days to go before February is over. Two days left to complete the Courage Challenge of the month: dare to ask and conquer the fear of rejection. Have you asked for what you want? 

I have been thinking about that. What have I asked this month? What else can I ask for? I like this month’s dare, and although it’s a courage exercise for this month, I intend on continuing it (at least, keep in my mind that I need not fear to ask for what I truly want).

This exercise does not always result to success. That’s fine. Rejection happens. But it never means the end. It just means you need to keep on asking, or ask someone else, or review the manner of your asking. Are you effective in asking for what you want?



  1. Ask with a positive expectation. Ask expecting a yes. I used to be guilty of this. I ask, and then get ahead of the response by saying “it’s okay if you say no”.
  2. Ask with a can-do attitude. Don’t assume against yourself. Assume that you can get it. Don’t start with an assumption that what you ask for is impossible.
  3. Ask with a clear end. Clear requests generate clear results. What is it exactly that you’re asking for? Specific, measurable, time-bound.
  4. Ask with a relevant audience. Know the right person to ask for what you want. If you don’t know, just keep asking until you do.
  5. Ask with persistence. Ask with tenacity. Ask repeatedly. When rejected, just say, “next!”. Keep asking until the “yes” comes. Believe that the “yes” is out there waiting to be asked.

[Recommended reading: Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles, The Aladdin Factor]


Just keep asking. Just keep asking. Just keep asking. Asking. Asking. 


//Would you like to share your story? Would you allow me to feature it here?


17 thoughts on “How To Ask (For What You Want)

  1. I really like this! And I had to ask today for a change of an appointment really hard to get. The first answer was not before end of April and when I asked again I got the appointment moved forward to the 6th of March πŸ™‚ A month prior to what the initial appointment would have been πŸ™‚

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  2. I asked for help with my children’s well being and my own mental health. I was told no and I was very local and demanding about getting a yes. There’s more detail on a blog I wrote. I digress, I’d love to share my story on your blog Mama of the silver lining. 😊🌟

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    1. I can’t wait to read about it and share it here. Can I get the link to the post? Did you link back to one of the courage challenge posts? Sorry if I missed it. Sometimes my pingback doesn’t work, it seems. Bravo to you on your courageous resolve to ask AND demand a yes!πŸ‘πŸ’ͺ

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      1. I can do the ping back for you. I just saw your challenge and thought what a wonderful idea. Just to give you a heads up I put a trigger warning on my blog post. Just in case, there’s anyone reading that may experience something not so pleasant. I’m a very vocal and honest writer. Is it ok if I just put linked up with http a:// 😊

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