Two days to go before February is over. Two days left to complete the Courage Challenge of the month: dare to ask and conquer the fear of rejection. Have you asked for what you want?
I have been thinking about that. What have I asked this month? What else can I ask for? I like this month’s dare, and although it’s a courage exercise for this month, I intend on continuing it (at least, keep in my mind that I need not fear to ask for what I truly want).
This exercise does not always result to success. That’s fine. Rejection happens. But it never means the end. It just means you need to keep on asking, or ask someone else, or review the manner of your asking. Are you effective in asking for what you want?
HOW TO EFFECTIVELY ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT :
- Ask with a positive expectation. Ask expecting a yes. I used to be guilty of this. I ask, and then get ahead of the response by saying “it’s okay if you say no”.
- Ask with a can-do attitude. Don’t assume against yourself. Assume that you can get it. Don’t start with an assumption that what you ask for is impossible.
- Ask with a clear end. Clear requests generate clear results. What is it exactly that you’re asking for? Specific, measurable, time-bound.
- Ask with a relevant audience. Know the right person to ask for what you want. If you don’t know, just keep asking until you do.
- Ask with persistence. Ask with tenacity. Ask repeatedly. When rejected, just say, “next!”. Keep asking until the “yes” comes. Believe that the “yes” is out there waiting to be asked.
[Recommended reading: Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles, The Aladdin Factor]
Just keep asking. Just keep asking. Just keep asking. Asking. Asking.
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