Mama’s How To Make Your Own Bliss

When the day starts to go sour, when the night goes on and on and on with the leftover house chores, when insecurities start to rear its ugly head, when exhaustion and frustration find their way into your weak moment, what do you do, Mama?

When nothing seems to go right with your day and no one else is there for you to turn it around, what do you do, Mama?

Rough days like this can easily turn into a big drama of self-pity, if I don’t watch myself. I just had this kind of moment last Saturday night. I was too tired from a long day, coming from a kiddie birthday party, and while everyone else was happily snoring away in their respective beds, I was left sitting on the sofa in the dark living room contemplating about the baby’s bottles waiting for me in the sink and the chaotic mess staring right in front of me. And then I found myself making my own bliss until I found the energy to complete the remaining tasks and call it a day.

This is my go-to recipe for making my own bliss:

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  1. I Look at the kids’ photos in my phone’s camera roll to conjure up happy moments with them and little details that I love about them like those little toes or that subtle dimple or the twinkle in the eye when they laugh.

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2. I write them a letter to tell them how much they mean to me and why they are the greatest gifts I’ve ever received. This is easier to do after seeing those photos. Last weekend, I wrote them this little letter while looking at a photo of them on the grocery cart, raising their arms as if on a roller coaster, bringing laughter to me and Papa.

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  1. watch them sleep peacefully, without a care of the issues that keep us up at night. I watch them snuggled under the covers, cuddling their favorite stuff toy. I watch a little hand partly forming an adorable fist. I watch the rise and fall of their chests and listen to the sound of their soft breathing. I join in, inhale, exhale, inhale, exhale. Until I feel the bad energy flush out of my body and in its place a renewed sense of meaning. I feel re-energized.

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Us, Mamas, have rituals like this to self-heal and refresh ourselves. This is our survival kit. We need this. We need a little pocket of time to step back and give ourselves a little love. Not only do we deserve it, we need it so we can continue giving ourselves for our kids and our family.

//What do you do, Mama? How do you make your own bliss?

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9 thoughts on “Mama’s How To Make Your Own Bliss

  1. A lovely little reminder. And it doesn’t hurt that your babies are adorable. They make me smile and I don’t even know them. My grandma once told me “You will have dirty dishes every day of your life, but you won’t always have those babies.” Good advice.

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  2. Awwww…. I feel you! It’s nice to know that I’m not alone. Glad you had that “me” time to help re-energize your spirit and be ready to serve others more. Keep on inspiring! ‘Hope to stay connected with you! 🙂

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    1. Hi, Celine! I did a quick visit in your blog (limited time when it’s the weekend) -love it, by the way!- and I’m so excited to connect with you from IG to blogosphere. 😀 I have something in mind for our blogs, hopefully I can drop you a note this week! Happy weekend!

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