Fear of Hardwork

This weekend, I’ll think about the dreams that I didn’t pursue because the thought of the amount of work it required has stopped me. I’m going to write it down to provide clarity. And I’m going to list one action item to move this dream forward even by just a single step.

Fear of hardwork does not mean laziness. Okay, maybe sometimes it is. Often, the thought is like this:

“I can’t do this.”

“I’m too busy with other stuff in my life.”

“I don’t have the time.”

“I have a lot on my plate as it is.”

“I don’t know where to begin.”

“I might not be able to finish it.”

“This is a lot of work. I’m not even sure if (a) this is really what I want, (b) I can be good at this, (c) it is worth the trouble.”

And starting this weekend, I’m going to face this fear. I’m going to match replace every one of those self-limiting thoughts with productive statements.

“I can do this! I can if I WILL.”

“I’m always busy. The question is what am I letting myself busy with. I WILL FILL MY DAY WITH THINGS THAT MATTER MOST. My life dreams matter to me.”

“I have time. This is a matter of prioritization. I will make time for my goals.”

“I will fill my plate with things that bring me closer to my dreams. Life is too short to spend it in what is not valuable to me.”

“If I don’t know where to begin, I’ll begin with what I know. The next steps will unfold as I go. The important thing is I started.”

“I will finish it. I just need to take it one step at a time.”

“I will try it. I will start it. It doesn’t matter if I’m scared or overwhelmed or whether I can or I know how to pull this through. Starting it has a way of unfolding the answers to my questions.”

I wanted to craft these statements into something more concise, catchy and memorable, but in the spirit of “just starting it” and taking a step, I went ahead with this post. One of these days, the tantrum-filled toddler in her terrible two-ness and the clingy baby who is fighting his own separation anxiety will give me a break and then I will have the free time (and peaceful mind) to review and rewrite this. 😊

Happy Weekend to you all! May we all have a fierce & fun weekend!


6 thoughts on “Fear of Hardwork

  1. The best way to deal with it is definitely to break whatever task it down into smaller steps and focus on doing those instead of just worrying that you’ll never achieve the final target. Four years ago when I had a vague idea for a book I would never have dreamt I would ever finish it and there were definitely times when I felt like giving up. But I just decided to plug on and ignore all the doubts and I’m nearly there! Oh and with small children don’t be hard on yourself. There are limits to what you can do at this stage, but this stage will pass!

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